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Inner Love Talk
By Dr. Scott & Shannon Peck

We are all privately talking to ourselves all the time.

Take a moment right now and reflect on these key questions:

* What percent of your inner talk (what you think
privately) is negative?
* What have you been saying to yourself about yourself in
the last 24 hours?
* What percent of your inner talk is loving towards
yourself?
* How keenly are you observing what you think about and
whether or not it is positive and coming from a loving
source?

We all have negative thoughts that barrage us constantly
and it's easy to put ourselves down. "I'm too fat, too old,
too tired. I'm never going to be what I hope to be. I'll
never experience real, sweet love. I'm so ashamed of
myself." Any of these sound familiar?

You might call this inner trash talk. It's a constant flow
of personal putdowns - by yourself!

This is not the love you deserve. You deserve to replace
negative inner talk with positive messages to yourself -
from a higher source than yourself, divine Love! And Love
does have a message for you! Here's just a taste of what
Love (or your Highest Self) wants you to know and say to
yourself:

* "I am worthy and I feel it and know it."
* "I know I could be better, but I like myself as I am. I
am making strong efforts in my life and that counts. In
fact, it counts a lot."
* "I love my special and unique qualities. I know deep
within that I am a treasure. I live each moment in this
awareness!"

This is inner Love talk. Think of it as your Highest Self
speaking for you.

It's a lot easier than you might realize.

Negative inner talk - self trash talk -  is mostly a habit.
Unfortunately, we're accustomed to trashing ourselves. Once
you realize that negative inner talk is habit talk, you
become self-aware of your thinking and you can make a new
choice. Every time you make the choice to replace negative
with inner Love talk, you are establishing a new habit of
loving yourself.

Eventually, you will feel something has gone wrong
whenever you are not loving yourself in this way.

It doesn't matter if you fail 1,000 times. What matters is
that you become aware of your private thinking and replace
those 1,000 negative thoughts with Love's message from your
Highest Self.

For example, at the end of each day, review privately the
top three things you most loved about yourself that day.
What did you do best? What was your best moment of
thinking? What was your highest action?

Such positive inner Love talk breaks the habit of
negative, recycling self talk. Let Love talk take the stage
in your steady flow of inner thinking so you can experience
greater freedom, relaxation, and happiness. Your life will
open more easily to the realm of higher possibilities.

Here are more questions to help you create positive inner
Love talk:

* What did I do today that was hard, but I did it well?
* How did I love someone well today?
* What did I learn today?

Productive questions like these generate positive inner
Love talk and growth. And this habit will beautifully
support and sustain you in hard times.

When you practice inner Love talk, you are re-creating
your automatic response to every situation. The outcome is
deeply stabilizing for more joy and greater emotional
balance.

Another way to practice inner Love talk is to develop
inner talk headlines that affirm your worth and then hit
the "play" button repeatedly. For example:

* "Love is with me."
* "I am growing steadily in my love skills."
* "I am Love's golden light of beauty."
* "I accept myself."
* "My life carries great value."

Congratulate yourself repeatedly for every positive
private thought you have about yourself and watch your
energy increase. When negative talk begins again, don't
cave in to a re-run of old tapes. Replace them with these
new and positive tapes of inner love for yourself.

You control the "play" button so practice being your top
Love advocate. Everyone makes mistakes and can learn from
their mistakes, including you. Give yourself the benefit of
doubt when your old habit sucks you back down. Release it
and let yourself soar once again into the inner love space
you deserve.

This topic of Inner Love talk is life transforming. We
expect nothing less than miracles to pour forth in your
life. And this is where they begin - with your private,
personal dialogue and communion with divine Love that moves
into a steady flow of inner Love talk. We are with you and
we love you. Welcome to the heart of Love!

Copyright 2008 Scott & Shannon Peck
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Dr. Scott Peck & Shannon Peck are Co-founders of
TheLoveCenter, a non-profit organization "Calling everyone
home to Love" They are authors of books on love & healing,
including: The Love You Deserve, Love Skills, Liberating
Your Magnificence, and Love Heals (by Shannon Peck). For
lots more love, visit www.TheLoveCenter.com. We are holding
the space for you to receive all the love you deserve!
 

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